When I was chatting with one of my friends today, he asked me, "how will your next year in grade eleven be like?" I hesitated for a moment. Thousands of things came to my mind: TOEFL, SAT, the fact I will be having two Math classes and two English classes, history... At the moment, I felt like I couldn't breathe anymore. It was like tons of rocks have just landed on me, and I couldn't do a damn thing about it. I felt desperately. I told him that sometimes I just want to give up. He said, "I understand." But he doesn't, he doesn't know what I'm facing right now. He doesn't know how much stress I'm having right now. He knows nothing. But I can't blame him. He only said that because he cares and wants me to feel better. People can't possibly know about other people's misery, not just because you see things differently, also because you never experience it yourself.
Last year, when my friend had to leave the school for a while, I told him, it's fine. I said I understood him and I would help him to come back. How on the earth could I help him? I didn't even know what to do but telling him everything is going to be fine repeatedly. Most of the time, I've been watching him regretting for what he has done and being frustrated. And I felt bad because I couldn't help but be a listener. I know it's useless. So I just told myself, I did my best to help but now listen to what he has been complain is the best thing to do. I tried to convince myself but it didn't work. I couldn't stand him giving up so I started pushing him to work harder and I didn't care if he thought I was annoyed because I know at least it's the right thing to do whether it's helpful or not.
After, I came around that, when people say "I understand you", mostly is because they feel bad for you and they care about you, it doesn't mean they really understand you, but you can't blame them, it's not their life, it is yours. Sometimes, when people try to think from your aspect, even they try really hard, it just doesn't work that well, because whatever happens, it happens to you, not them.
I'm really grateful about what he has done for me, telling me not to give up. I know it won't actually help that much, but it does make me feel better and I really appreciate that. Thanks. Next year will be tough of course, but I will try my best to survive. I promise.
Last year, when my friend had to leave the school for a while, I told him, it's fine. I said I understood him and I would help him to come back. How on the earth could I help him? I didn't even know what to do but telling him everything is going to be fine repeatedly. Most of the time, I've been watching him regretting for what he has done and being frustrated. And I felt bad because I couldn't help but be a listener. I know it's useless. So I just told myself, I did my best to help but now listen to what he has been complain is the best thing to do. I tried to convince myself but it didn't work. I couldn't stand him giving up so I started pushing him to work harder and I didn't care if he thought I was annoyed because I know at least it's the right thing to do whether it's helpful or not.
After, I came around that, when people say "I understand you", mostly is because they feel bad for you and they care about you, it doesn't mean they really understand you, but you can't blame them, it's not their life, it is yours. Sometimes, when people try to think from your aspect, even they try really hard, it just doesn't work that well, because whatever happens, it happens to you, not them.
I'm really grateful about what he has done for me, telling me not to give up. I know it won't actually help that much, but it does make me feel better and I really appreciate that. Thanks. Next year will be tough of course, but I will try my best to survive. I promise.